” Body shaming is the practice of making critical, potentially humiliating comments about a person’s body size or weight or complexion . ”
I think most of us have encountered it atleast once in our life . Most of the times it’s some random relative commenting about how my complexion is so dark , or why I’m so thin , why is my hair so short , or why I’m so fat . And we are always taught that they are elders and we should respect them no matter what they say or what they do . They be like , she is still your aunt , she is still your grandma , he is still your uncle ! You can’t talk back and disrespect them .
I’ve heard comments like why am I so dark ? Are you from Africa ? Who’s gonna marry me , probably a auto wala because everyone wants a fair and beautiful girl and I’m not one . Why don’t I apply turmeric daily so that I can be a little fair . Oh , you’ve gain weight , loose it , no one wants to marry a buffalo . Oh , you’ve lost weight , gain some because no one wants to marry a stick .
And they never realise how all these things affect us ? I’ve been listening to all these things since I was 4 or 5 and after all these years , they haven’t stopped . I still fight those thoughts in my head . There was a point in my life when I didn’t left my home for 3-4 months because that feeling was so strong that if I leave home , people are gonna laugh at me because I’m ugly . I’m not good looking . I’m not good enough . Even now when I go out , I feel like someone is watching and laughing at me . I don’t feel like going anywhere . And it’s difficult to shrug off these thoughts because they are literally planted in my head .
I don’t know how many of you can relate to this . But if you ever come across this situation , either you’re going through this or someone else , repeat it in your head that you’re enough .Stop them right there . You’re good in just the way you are . Don’t let their words affect you .